Tuesday, March 10, 2009

For my Dad - 10.08.1915 to 10.03.2009



I cannot find the words to describe how much you mean to me or how much I shall miss you...they are feelings...I cannot believe you have gone...rest peacefully my darling Dad.



27 comments:

Photo Glyn said...

Loving a partner is one thing, loving your Dad is another. This is my worst nightmare scenario, losing my parents, no matter how 'independent' I appear to be. I can't offer you any words of condolence here Dianne, no one can replace your Dad. I wish we didn't have to go through this but most of us will. All I can say is that I wish YOU all the best through this awful time, and that you must remember to live as he would have wanted you to live, from deep in his heart, and that's happily

I'm SO sorry.

XXX

foam said...

i know you miss him..
XO

Little Lamb said...

I'm sorry for your loss.

Aren O. Týr said...

Nothing adequate can be said.

Hopefully you can draw some solace from the fact that you can cherish the many good years and memories you surely must have had - and the knowledge that life will surely get better again at some point in the future.

Look after yourself.

puerileuwaite said...

This was very touching and beautiful, Dianne. XOXO

Corby said...

Diane,

I so understand you pain, remember to take care of yourself. I send many hugs- dads are hard to lose and everything changes when they slip away.

(((hugs)))

-Corby

Anonymous said...

WHAT A BEAUTIFUL TRIBUTE. AS YOUR DAUGHTER I CAN SAY WITH ALL CERTAINTY THAT HE ADORED YOU, AS MUCH AS YOU ADORED HIM. I WILL MISS HIM DREADFULLY TOO. I TAKE SOLACE FROM MY SADNESS KNOWING THAT HE IS AT PEACE NOW, AND REUNITED WITH HIS TRUE LOVE.

Alexandre Fabbri said...

This is so terribly sad. You must have so many thoughts and memories rushing through and returning to your mind again & again. I can only say I know this feeling so well, having lost both parents whilst young and was badly affected. Please Dianne, do not get more downhearted than you have been of late. I care more than you might think, despite appearances. I can't suggest anything more than that you share your feelings with a close friend you trust implicitly and can truly lean on, as well as share it with your Creator at any time in your own private room, who will listen silently and without interruption.

Recorded in John 5:21,28 Jesus said: “For just as the Father raises the dead up and makes them alive, so the Son also makes those alive whom he wants to.. Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out”. This, I believe, will most sensibly be back to earth with those who your father knew from before him, like his own parents, and of course your dear self. Please take care of yourself and be sure in the knowledge that there are many here feeling for you right now, Corby particularly.

dianne said...

Thank you dear Glyn , it is so very sad and I have this awful feeling of emptiness as he has been so much a part of my life for the entirety of my life.

I was thinking how final it all is today, I cannot go to him for any advice now, or guidance, that bright shining spirit he had is no longer with me...only memories.

Yes no matter how independent we think we are we are still their children and it is quite a wrench losing my Mum in 2004 and now my Dad...but he would want me to be happy and I do take heart that his spirit has left that tired body and he is in a better place. ♥

dianne said...

Thank you my dear friend Foamie , yes I will miss him as he has been so much a part of my life.
I do realise that I am fortunate to have had him with me for such a long time,I've had a Father and friend who has been there for me for as long as I can remember...very lucky, as I know your dear Dad passed away when you were very young, I'm so sorry. ♥

dianne said...

Thank you my dear Lambie for your wishes...Dad's are nice to have around. ♥

dianne said...

Thank you Aren dear friend, yes I have a lifetime of memories with a great Dad, who looked after me and my Mum and never let us down...he was a loving, giving man who always found time to help others.
Thanks I will look after myself. ♥

dianne said...

Thank you Puggles my sweet, I was so sad last night when I did this post I could not find the words to match the feelings and emotions I was experiencing...so many tears... so I thought I would just keep it simple...I'm sure he would have liked that photo and the moving music. ♥

dianne said...

Thank you dearest Corby , you know how painful it is having just recently lost your own Dad so your emotions are still raw...its very difficult to let go of someone who has been there for you all of your life...I remember you speaking of fishing with your Dad, we did that too.
When I was holding onto his hand in the hospital he was squeezing my hand really tightly,he didn't want to let go, reminded me of when I was a little girl, he would hold my hand so tightly so that I never got seperated from him when we were out...he was such a good Dad.
Yes everything has changed...I keep thinking I can turn around and he will be there...thanks for the hugs, you take care as well. ♥

dianne said...

Thank you Rebecca my sweet daughter, he was a wonderful man, a devoted husband, a loving Dad and he adored his grandchildren as you know...nothing was too much trouble for him.
I wanted to pay a special tribute to him in this post as he was really someone special not just to us but to all he has helped... but I was just so sad last night I hoped these simple but sincere words and music would suffice...I'm sure he would understand.
Thank you so much for your support and help yesterday. ♥

dianne said...

Thank you my dear Alexandre ,
I have many fond memories of time spent with my Dad, I was fortunate to have him with me for so long.
We shared a common interest in botany, science and physics, he had a brilliant mind and memory for details... so apart from the usual Dad and daughter conversations we had many interests to talk about.
He took a great interest in all events that were happening throughout the world, things like books and words too, I think that's what kept him young for his age as he never developed dementia.
I hope wherever his spirit might be that he is at peace and is with my Mum, the love of his life. ♥

dianne said...

And Alexandre my friend, I will try not to get mired down in this sadness, if nothing else this experience has taught me how fragile life is...be happy while we can as it can be taken away so suddenly.
Thank you for your concern,I have friends but most of all my children to help me. ♥

K9 said...

daddy is the first love of every girl. it is a tremendous loss i know. what a lovely tribute youve given - the sunset of the big love. im so sorry. xo k9

dianne said...

Thank you dearest K9 ,
yes it is so sad and difficult to let go, Dads look out for us and teach us so much, he was also my friend... but he was elderly and frail and I knew it was only a matter of time before I would lose him...trouble is when it happens you are never prepared emotionally.
Yes it would have been his last sunset, that's why I chose that photo because he didn't get to see the new day dawning. ♥

J Cosmo Newbery said...

I am so sorry to hear the news. ♡♡

dianne said...

Thank you dear j cosmo you are very thoughtful...it is very sad to lose someone you love. ♡

Lee said...

Owww. I wish I could offer some sort of magic wand, but I can't. Many thoughts and wishes.

dianne said...

Thanks dear Lee ,no magic wand...your thoughts and wishes are much appreciated. ♡

Sparrow said...

Dearest Dianne! I am so sorry for your loss. I love my darling dad as well and he is 91. I count the precious days with him and see the train coming down the tracks. Please know that you are in my prayers.

dianne said...

Thank you dearest Sparrow , that is a good age for your Dad as well.
I knew this day would come as he had become very frail in the last year, his mind was great, just his tired body letting him down...it is still a shock when they do go, thank you for your prayers.
I take comfort in knowing that his spirit is free now and he is no longer in pain and discomfort. ♡

The Mess said...

Your father must have had an interesting life. Living so long and experience so much that has happened in history and technology during all these years. Was he a good storyteller? I imagine he could tell how life was before electricity and TV.

dianne said...

Yes M he did live a long life and was interested in everything that was changing around him...so much in history, progress in technology and medicine.
He lived through the Great Depression and suffered many hardships.
He served six years in the Royal Australian Navy during WWII,I loved hearing stories of his youth and as a young man, how he spent time at his Uncles farm so many exciting things that he did.
The family moved from the countryside to Sydney so that their Dad could get a job working for the railways.
Yes no TV when he was a boy and yes gas lighting, thats what prompted the family to move from their house in the inner city to a house which had electricity, how exciting that would be.
He was so interested in mechanincs,electronics, building all kinds of things...he built our house and I helped him as a little girl and I also helped him build a boat...I also used to help him with his mechanical work on his truck...remember I said that small hands were good for getting into tight spaces, well my small hands were very helpful when it came to mechanics...he was a wonderful Dad and we spent so much time together. ♡