Saturday, April 30, 2016

An Update On My Son Matthew

Matthew in happier, healthier days.

Week six begins and Matthew remains in the Intensive Care / Critical Care Unit. He had further abdominal surgery last week as the wound was not healing properly and had to be reopened and cleaned of infection and accumulated debris from internal bleeding; this was posing yet another risk to his life. 
The 23centimetre incision has been left open and a Vacu Seal (Negative Pressure Wound Therapy) dressing has been applied to help the wound heal more efficiently. He is still left with blood clots in his lungs and arteries, tachycardia, kidney problems and hypertension, none of which he had before this medical emergency.
I hope with ongoing treatment these problems can all be resolved.
Once more thank you all again for your words and wishes of kindness.

Much love, Dianne  xoxoxo  ♥

50 comments:

foam said...

What a handsome fellow! I just thought of you and your son yesterday. Continued healing thoughts and good wishes!
Hugs, dear Dianne

dianne said...

Thank you dearest Foamy for your lovely words and kind wishes.
Matthew is also a lovely person, a good person, of course we have had our disagreements but he has never caused me any problems, always a gentleman, studious, sensitive and caring.
It is sad because he has no-one special in his life to be with him, only me and his immediate family and some close friends. He was engaged for quite a while but they decided to go their separate ways.
We normally have coffee together every morning and I miss him not being here.

You have to press an intercom button to be allowed into the ICU, gown up and wash your hands with a disinfectant gel. Today I was greeted by his nurse who warned me that Matthew was not well, he had experienced a traumatic day.
His wound had haemorrhaged profusely, so much so that the Vacu Seal had to be removed and since the bleeding would not stop the surgeon had injected adrenaline into the tissue to stem the bleeding. The surgical packing had to be changed four times. The team are still deciding which is the best way to close the large incision, stitching and stapling are out of the question at present as his skin is too abraded and damaged. The surgical packing which contains anti-bacterial and other agents will give the open wound a chance to rest until a solution is decided upon.
He has been through so much pain and so many complications it is difficult to tell him not to give up hope and to keep positive.
I was hopeful that everything was moving forward slowly but this is yet another setback, it is so serious I worry that I will get a phone call in the middle of the night. It's just too much dear Foamy.

Love and hugs
Dianne xoxoxo ♡

Giga said...

I hope and wish that with all my heart that your son will soon return to health. I wish you the faith and strength.

J Cosmo Newbery said...

I imagine that this is a terribly worrying time for you, Dianne.

Distant thoughts, Cosmo.

dianne said...

Thank you dear Giga for your kind words and thoughtful wishes. Your comments here help, its comforting to know that someone else is thinking of my son and I don't feel so alone.
Warm greetings
xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Yes dear Cosmo , a very worrying time, it all seems surreal, a bad dream from which one wants to wake as the days come and go, back and forth to the hospital as Matthew's life hangs in the balance, not knowing what the future if any holds for him.

We only want the very best for our children, their health, happiness and a life lived to its full potential.

Thank you for your distant thoughts dear friend.
Hugs, Dianne
xoxoxo ♡

Laura. M said...

Diane lot of encouragement and a lot of strength. Mateo, will go little bit better every day.I wish you all the best and health ♥
Besos.

Existe Sempre Um Lugar said...

Certamente que seu filho vai recuperar, ele tem força interior e com todo o seu apoio vai melhorar, desejo as melhoras rápidas.
AG

Yannis Politopoulos said...

Dear Dianne,

Your son will be alright, because he is strong and the look of God is with him.

We love you all.
Yannis and Vania Politopoulos

Crissi said...

Dear Dianne, your words make me very sad. I hope with you that your son will soon be well. I pray for his health.
God bless you.
Hug and all the best
Crissi

MARTY said...

we can only hope with you ! he is young and strong
and you are so close to Matthew ! I cross my fingers
for healing
bisous Dianne
Be strong

dianne said...

Thank you dear Laura for your sweet words of encouragement and your lovely wishes for us both.
His condition remains the same with talk of more surgery.
Besos
xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Caro AG obrigado por suas amáveis palavras e desejos, sim, ele deve ter força interior para ter sobrevivido tudo o que aconteceu com ele, ele superou muitos contratempos.
abraços

xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Thank you dear Yannis and Vania for your kind and encouraging words. Yes, I hope Matthew does have the strength to survive and come out of this without too many ongoing health problems.

Love to you both, Dianne
xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Thank you dear Crissi for your sweet and thoughtful wishes and your prayers.
God bless you too.
Hugs, Dianne.
xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Thank you dear Marty for your sweet words and wishes for my Matthew and his recovery.
I must be strong as each day I hope for a big improvement in his condition, yet there is always another setback to his recovery. He must have great inner strength to endure all that has happened to him and for him to have survived.

bisous dear Marty
xoxoxo ♡

Anonymous said...

I will pray for Matthew tonight. Not just an ordinary prayer. A prayer to the one who hears. A prayer for change. A prayer on bent knees. A prayer to whom nothing is impossible. You'll see. You'll know. I am right next to you. My back is on your back. Look up. CB.

dianne said...

Where have you been dearest CB , I have been worried about you too, wondering if you were alright, if you were unwell? I have been looking for a sign from you but could not find you. You said I was close to your heart but I felt you had left me, abandoned me just when I needed you the most...to feel you close to me, the comfort of your words, when I felt so alone.

Thank you for your prayer for Matthew and these sincere words, he has been through too much and the uncertainty is ongoing.
When I leave the hospital in the evening the air is so cool and fragrant, I look up to the sky as the Autumn night sky is filled with stars, its beauty comforts me somehow.
When I awoke early this morning I had a feeling of hopefulness, that today held the promise of some happiness...and here you are once more.

Thank you for being close to me again and for your prayers for Matthew, I won't feel so alone now and I will think of you far away on the other side of the world beyond that star filled sky. Please take care dear one.

Much love, your friend, Dianne.
xoxoxo ♡

Mirthe Duindam said...

Dear Dianne, I don't know what to say.... it's difficult for me in English, but I feel with you and wish you and your sun all the best and strength to go through this. Hoping for good health, with warm greetings, Mirthe

dianne said...

Dank je lieve Mirthe voor uw vriendelijke woorden en wensen en voor het verlaten van een reactie.
Mijn zoon Matthew is erg ziek, dit is zijn zevende week in de Intensive / Critical Care-eenheid, elke dag lijkt meer complicaties te presenteren. Nadat hij zo dicht bij het verliezen van zijn leven Ik kijk uit naar de dag dat hij helemaal goed en kan thuis te komen.

Hartelijke groeten, Dianne
xoxoxo ♡

JUAN FUENTES said...

Todos formamos parte de esta evolución,por lo tanto tenemos que acatar los defectos que se producen,a veces como humano,y por el afecto que se pueda sentir a una persona,nos revelamos contra esa evolución´nos sometemos a la cienciam y confiamos en ella
Un fuerte abrazo

Anonymous said...

On a Lane in Spring

A little lane - the brook runs close beside,
And spangles in the sunshine, while the fish glide swiftly by;
And hedges leafing with the green springtide;
From out their greenery the old birds fly,
And chirp and whistle in the morning sun;
The pilewort glitters 'neath the pale blue sky,
The little robin has its nest begun
The grass-green linnets round the bushes fly.
How mild the spring comes in! the daisy buds
Lift up their golden blossoms to the sky.
How lovely are the pingles in the woods!
Here a beetle runs - and there a fly
Rests on the arum leaf in bottle-green,
And all the spring in this sweet lane is seen.

John Clare (1793-1864)

Pour Dianne

Irina said...

Dear Dianne,
your son will get better soon. He is a strong handsome guy, he'll make it! Take my word for it, I am a mother of a son too, I know what you are going through.
God bless you and your son!
Give him my best wishes, from Russia,
Irina

dianne said...

Thank you dear Juan for your kind and wise words, yes we are all a part of the evolution of this world. We do not have much control over what causes us happiness and sadness only on a very small personal level and the choices we make. We must learn to accept the fate that comes our way and deal with it as best we can.
Besos
xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Thank you dear Irina for your kind and encouraging words. I do hope my son will be well again soon, he must be strong to have survived all he has been through. He still has many serious complications which are ongoing, all we can do is hope that in time they will be resolved. I will pass on your kind wishes.
God bless you too!
Warm regards, Dianne

xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Thank you dearest C.B. for this delightful poem. Clare's words paint an image and evoke a feeling of verdant beauty, a place of cool and quiet though busy with the sounds of birds singing, insects buzzing, the rippling sound of the stream, the scent of grasses and flowers...the sounds of Spring, a place I would love to be.

I found a wonderful image that I feel somehow illustrates the beauty of this poem.

Thank you for your kindness and thoughtfulness, it is comforting to feel your presence and friendship here with me once more.
Matthew's condition remains very much the same. I read this poem to him this evening he was very moved by its beauty and your kindness to me.

Take care dear one, much love, Dianne
xoxoxo ♡

JUAN FUENTES said...

Amiga Dianne,pasear por la rivera de un rio,siempre és un gran placer,

dianne said...

Dear friend Juan, thank you, yes, it is always a pleasure to walk along the banks of a river, a stream or along the shore at the beach...so lovely to feel the cool water rippling over one's feet.
Hugs
xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Dearest CB , further to my reply to your beautiful poem just up above. Your poem on my iPhone showed a link highlighted over "in the morning sun", however it is not visible here. If it is a lovely image I was wondering if you have the time if you would kindly link it here again as you always send me such beautiful images?
Yours kindly, Dianne
xoxoxo ♡

Algodão Tão Doce said...


Amiga, vocês estão em minhas orações...coragem querida, confia na Misericórdia
Divina!
Um doce abraço, Marie.

Crissi said...

Hello my dear Dianne,
you have to be so strong to withstand this hard and so sad situation !
God bless you - all the best! My thoughts are with you.
Hug Crissi

dianne said...

Caro amigo Marie , obrigado por suas orações e desejos amáveis, este longo processo para o meu filho para retornar à boa saúde vai sobre e sobre.
Abraços doce Marie.

xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Hello dear friend Crissi

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words,the serious nature of my son's condition goes on and on with more complications.
On Saturday a specialist from another leading hospital was called in to perform a surgical procedure with the use of CT scans to locate two large abscesses in Matthew's abdomen. these had to be drained of their contents and two permanent drains placed in situ for continued drainage.
This procedure was performed with a local anaesthetic, a general anaesthetic was not possible as his airways and lungs are too compromised with blood clots.
It is a very trying time, I don't know where he finds the strength to endure so much pain and I have to be strong for him when I feel so drained and worried for him.
Hugs, Dianne
xoxoxo ♡

JUAN FUENTES said...

Debes confiar en la ciencia,pués ella es la mejor esperanza,para que se pueda restablecer

Algodão Tão Doce said...

Olá amiga, passei por aqui para desejar-lhe uma
abençoada semana.
Doce abraço, Marie.

dianne said...

Gracias, querido Juan para sus deseos amable y considerado, necesitamos la ciencia y la esperanza.
Abrazos
xoxox ♡

dianne said...

Olá querida Marie
Obrigado por seus desejos doces e atenciosas, uma semana abençoada para você também meu amigo.

Muita apreciação, Dianne
xoxoxo ♡

Leovi - La Fotografía Efectista Abstracta said...

Hi Dianne, I hope everything goes well.

dianne said...

Thank you dear Leovi for your thoughtful words. Sadly my son Matthew is still very ill and remains in the Intensive Care Unit. He has had many more complications and is having more invasive tests, further surgeries are planned.
His life still hangs in the balance.
Besos my friend
Dianne.
xoxoxo ♡

JUAN FUENTES said...

Amiga poeta,muchas veces tus sentimientos,vuelan mucho más alto,que lo puedan hacer las aves
Un fuerte abrazo

Antonio Machado said...

Estimo as melhoras do Matheus. Vou fazer uma oração. Beijos

dianne said...

Thank you dear Juan for your sweet words,my feelings have not flown very high for quite some time, I am too mired down with concern for my son.
Besos
xoxoxo ♡

dianne said...

Thank you dear Antonio for your kind words and prayers for Matthew, he is not doing so well at present, more complications have arisen and sent his recovery backwards once more.
Beijos
xoxoxo ♡

Crissi said...

All the best my dear!
God bless you!
💕Hug💕 Crissi

dianne said...

Thank you dear Crissi for thinking of me and for your sweet words. I am so very tired with all of the stress and worry from my son's deteriorating condition.
God bless you too!
💕Hugs💕, Dianne.
xoxoxo ♡

Leovi - La Fotografía Efectista Abstracta said...

Hi Dianne.
Besos.

dianne said...

Thank you dear Leovi .
Besos
xoxoxo ♡

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Marisa said...

I hope everything is getting better with your son health. I think about you on my prayers dear dianne.
Besos

dianne said...

Dear friend Marisa thank you for your kind words and prayers. Matthew's health is progressing very slowly, he is very thin and his wound still needs to be dressed by the Community nurse as it is not healing well.
Take care dear friend, much love, Dianne
xoxoxo ♡